A girl will never forget the first boy she likes. Even if things don't quite work out. But usually someone is there to offer words of wisdom, like 'Do you know why that boy did those things and said those things? He did those things because he likes you. That little boy does these terrible things because he's got a crush on you!' There it is! That's the beginning of our problem! Do you know what this means? We're all encouraged, no, we're programmed to believe that if a guy acts like a total jerk, he likes you!
Why do we say this stuff to each other? Is it possible that it’s because we’re too scared and it’s too hard to say the one obvious truth that’s staring everyone in the face?
He’s just not that into you.


'If a guy treats you like he doesn't give a shit, he genuinely doesn't give a shit. No exceptions.'

— Connor's never gonna call you.
— How do you know?!
— Because I'm a guy and this is how we do it. ... Over a week passed by and he didn't call you.
— Maybe he did call and I didn't get the message. Or maybe he lost my number, or he's out of town, or got knocked by a cab, or his grandma died?..
— Or maybe he didn't call because he's not interested in seeing you again? ... And the rule is: if a guy doesn't call you, he doesn't want to call you.

Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a boy punches you, he likes you. Never try to turn your own bangs and some day you'll meet a wonderful guy and your very own happy-ending. Every movie we see, every story we're told implores us to wait for it, this unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy-ending, we don't learn how to read the signs, how to tell the ones who want us from the ones who don't, the ones who'll stay from the ones who'll leave.
And maybe this happy-ending doesn't include a wonderful guy. Maybe it's you. On your own. Picking up the pieces and starting over. Preparing yourself for something better in the future. Maybe the happy-ending is just moving on? And maybe the happy-ending is this: doing that through all the immature phone calls and broken hearts, through all the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never ever gave up hope?


Instead of 'Don't you want to save our marriage?' with drama in the eyes there must be 'Is there anything to save?' with some common sense in mind.

p.s. Как же мне не хватало времени и фильмов на английском! Час погружения в фильм с какими-то чешскими/норвежскими/шведскими/хз какими субтитрами и я снова начинаю свободно думать по-английски. Это прекрасно.